Friday, December 5, 2014

don't know what to think of this...

this is his tumbler acct.  or was, it's since been deleted.  

the title says a lot tho...and I'm at a loss if he thinks the last few years I've been going thru a midlife crisis.  shocked, really. 

I feel like he's projecting.  many journal entries of mine I write about this actual idea that he's been going thru a mid-life crisis.  ...and when I found the glossy Maserati pamphlet addressed to him a few weeks ago when I was over at his place, it really just supported my idea.  

even the title is a put down.  he'd started saying a few years ago he felt like a "comfortable old shoe" meaning boring, average, etc... (his words) he kept saying, "I know you see me this way."  and no matter how much I told him the sheer ridiculousness in that statement, and that putting words in my mouth pissed me off, he still believed it(obviously still does).  

he couldn't have been further from the truth though.   I didn't know any other way to explain it, than the way I did.   

he had been pulling away from the marriage/relationship.  I felt it, I questioned him about it.  he said he didn't know what I was talking about, or sometimes ignored the question altogether. 

the more he pulled away, the more I panicked.  he seemed angry all the time. and I started to withdraw when he was angry. the sex was virtually non-existent. I tried, and he wasn't interested and told me so...I started to suspect he was fucking someone else. the angrier I got.  the more he pulled away

it was a vicious cycle. 

but I still loved him.  that never changed.  

I still do. 

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