My youngest Monkey is being bullied by twin girls at her school.
One twin is in her class, the other in the class next door.
Now when I say bullied, I mean these girls (6th grade) tell my Monkey that they hate her clothes, hair, shoes, what she says, even how she walks. It's a never ending list of dislikes.
It's abuse really.
Now I've talked with the girls' Grandmother and haven't gotten a lot of help (i.e. none) in that department. Their situation is bad (Grandparents have recently been given custody) and it's obvious to me that these girls will have problems the rest of their lives. I can feel sorry for them, but that's where my feelings end for these girls. Plain and simple they are bullies, who get off on making other kids (mine isn't the only one) feel like shit.
Now my oldest never really had a problem like this, so I'm at a loss.
Here's what I've done so far:
- told her to ignore the girls
- told her to talk w/her teacher
- talked w/her about what it is to be a 'real' friend
- talked w/her about what constitutes abusive behavior
At this point, I now have a 6th grader who no longer wants to attend school. Which breaks my heart. She's always worn her heart on her sleeve and is a prime target for these kind of girls.
I've watched my once confident 12 year old, lose all sense of herself.
I'm at a loss here Ladies.
How can I make this better? How can I help her help herself?
Oh, and some background on her teacher. He's a male teacher (her first) and while he's fun and goofy, he is completely ignorant of any 'girl' problems in his class.
Thank you for any suggestions.